Greetings
Greetings in the United States often involve a handshake, particularly in a professional or business setting. However, greetings can vary in casual settings depending on the region and the individuals involved. Therefore, awareness of the appropriate greeting etiquette is essential, as they can be critical indicators of respect in specific settings.
This section will discuss all the customs and etiquette regarding greetings in the United States:
Handshakes
Handshakes remain the most common way of greeting and showing respect in the United States and are expected in most formal and informal settings. When shaking hands, offer a firm grip and maintain eye contact. A polite phrase such as “hello” or “it’s nice to meet you” should accompany the handshake.
It is important to remember that handshakes sometimes differ in the same strength. Sometimes, a quicker and more subtle handshake may be more appropriate. For example, being formal with someone more senior than you in terms of age or position. Conversely, when greeting a peer on equal footing with you, a slightly firmer grip can convey happiness at seeing them and warmth and confidence.
When meeting someone for the first time, it is essential to remember not to jump straight into a handshake without introducing yourself first or asking permission from the other person — if unsure of what kind of greeting is expected — it’s better to observe rather than potentially offending someone by making assumptions about their cultural background or religious beliefs. Additionally, conversations typically take place at an appropriate volume instead of a shout – while interesting stories can bring out enthusiasm and excitement, shouting should still be avoided as this can demonstrate aggression instead of an engaging attitude toward each other’s conversation.
Eye Contact
Greeting someone in the United States often involves direct eye contact. Making eye contact is a sign of respect and interest in the conversation and is a must when meeting someone for the first time. While people from many cultures may be uncomfortable with too much eye contact, which can be seen as aggressive or even intimidating, in the U.S., minimal eye contact may be considered disrespectful.
At a professional setting such as an interview, meeting, or presentation, it’s generally accepted and often encouraged to establish initial contact through a handshake. A handshake should involve a firm grip but not too tight, with fingers wrapping around the hand of the other person for approximately one second or so before breaking off and immediately making eye contact. In addition, of course, a smile adds warmth to any greeting!
In more informal settings, such as holding doors or exchanging pleasantries with a stranger on the street, there may be less emphasis on shaking hands—or touching at all, for that matter; most Americans respond favorably to friendly but distant salutations like “Good Morning” or “Hi there” followed by a brief, direct eye contact. Regardless of the level of formality involved in your greeting, direct eye contact will usually make your interlocutor feel respected and welcomed by you.
Gift Giving
Gift-giving in the United States is an essential part of culture and etiquette. Gifts are given on special occasions, such as birthdays and holidays, to express love and appreciation. When giving gifts, it is important to consider the recipient’s interests and experience.
In the United States, the usual way to give a gift is in person or through the mail. However, gifts should always be wrapped or placed in a gift bag, and a card should be included, if possible.
Appropriate gifts
Gift-giving is an important part of the American culture, but it’s essential to be aware of appropriate gifts in different situations. Knowing which gifts are suitable can be tricky, and buying a gift for someone you don’t know well is difficult.
The most important thing to remember when buying a gift is that it should always be thoughtful and relevant to the giver and recipient. For example, a traditional gift such as china or crystal would be appropriate if someone is getting married. On the other hand, if you buy a birthday present for somebody you barely know, then something like books or music-related items may be more appropriate.
Additionally, many people like to give personalized gifts that show thought and consideration of the recipient’s interests and personality. Examples could include personalized photo albums or t-shirts with custom designs that reflect something only those individuals might appreciate or enjoy together. Whatever type of gift you choose to give, it should reflect the relationship between the giver and recipient in some way to ensure that it conveys a heartfelt sentiment.
Gift Wrapping
Traditionally, a gift should be wrapped thoughtfully and presented attractively. Tissue paper is often used to cushion fragile items, while other gifts are wrapped in matching paper and tied with a coordinating ribbon. Gifts are also usually packaged in attractive gift bags or boxes, tied with curling ribbon. Although this type of presentation can be expensive, it is customary to wrap the gift neatly to show the recipient respect and appreciation for their effort.
Depending on the formality of the occasion, wrapping paper may come with or without printed imagery or greeting cards. It is also common for gifts to be adorned with doilies or bows before being presented. While there are no hard and fast rules on presenting a gift, basic etiquette dictates that presentation is everything regarding showing gratitude for a thoughtful gesture. Be sure to package your gifts in the most flattering manner possible—it’s an age-old tradition!
Dining Etiquette
When entering a restaurant in the United States, certain social practices should be kept in mind. It is essential to be aware of the differences in dining etiquette between countries. This section will discuss the specifics of dining etiquette in the United States.
From table manners and conversation topics to the correct way to pay for a meal, these tips will help you confidently dine with others in the United States:
Table Manners
The most basic and commonly known table manners tend to be the same everywhere across the world. These include:
- Always thank your host for inviting you.
- Thinking before speaking.
- Never talk with your mouth full.
Some other essential etiquette tips that are specific to dining in the United States include:
- Arriving on time – reaching at least 15 minutes late for an event is considered polite in some cultures, but arriving late to a meal without informing the host can be regarded as rude in the U.S.
- Placing your napkin – once you have sat down at the table, place your napkin on your lap as soon as possible.
- No double dipping – when shared foods like chips or pretzels require dipping sauces, it is not polite to double dip into a single sauce container; instead, take an individual serving of each sauce and set it aside for yourself.
- Finger licking – it may seem tempting judgment afterward but avoid licking your fingers while eating since this display of manners is seen as inappropriate.
- Using utensils correctly – learn how to wield a knife and fork while cutting up food correctly; if you are unsure how to do this, observe others at the table.
- Passing plates – always pass food or drinks to other guests on your right side before passing stuff on your left.
Tipping
Tipping is a customary practice in the United States and is typically done in restaurants and bars to express gratitude for excellent service. The amount you choose to tip depends on the establishment type, the service quality you received, and other factors, such as how large the party was.
Most commonly, a 15 – 20% tip is expected in restaurants, though some may add gratuity (an additional charge) to large groups. While tipping is not mandatory and can be done at your discretion, leaving without offering an appropriate gratuity is considered rude.
Bartenders are typically tipped $1 – $2 per drink, or 15-20% of your tab, with larger parties again requesting more gratuity from management. Valet staff will usually be tipped between $2 – $5 for their services.
Be sure to also thank your server by saying ‘thank you‘ before leaving, especially if you choose not to tip or have difficulty calculating the percentage for your final bill. Many tourists and international travelers understand that tipping culture can be confusing, so don’t feel bad if you get it wrong – there’s always learning potential!
Dress Code
In the United States, there is not one single dress code. Different occasions may call for different types of dress, but dress codes generally tend to be pretty casual. However, there are occasions, such as formal events and job interviews, where a more professional appearance is expected.
Knowing the dress code for any event you attend is important so you know what clothing to wear.
Business Attire
Business attire in the United States can vary depending on the occasion. However, it is typically expected that professional or formal business attire will be required in many settings, such as office meetings, conferences, and other events.
When deciding what to wear for an upcoming business event, dress codes are important to consider. Generally speaking, business attire for men in the U.S. involves a suit and tie with a dress shirt and polished shoes. Women may wear a conservative dress, suit, or pantsuit with sensible pumps and minimal jewelry. Accessories such as ties should follow generic guidelines:
- Patterned fabrics should be avoided.
- Bold colors should be worn with caution.
- Accessories such as ties should match your overall palette.
- Collar pins may also be worn but must be kept stylishly small.
- Cufflinks are also acceptable but, again, must show good taste.
Common types of formal (or business casual) events that require professional attire include:
- Meetings & conferences
- Job interviews & presentations
- Panel interviews & evaluative meetings
- Team offsites or retreats
- Holiday parties & dinners
- Fund-raisers & charity events
- Awards galas
Regardless of the event’s purpose or the location of the meeting itself (an office building or upscale hotel), dressing appropriately is expected by most employers and respected coworkers throughout corporate America.
Casual Attire
Casual attire is the most commonly accepted type of dress code in the United States. It is appropriate for various settings, from everyday life to informal events and special occasions. Knowing the subtle differences between casual attire for men and women can help you make an impression when dressing for non-formal and semi-formal events.
For men, casual attire typically includes long or short-sleeved shirts (with or without a collar) such as polo shirts or T-shirts, khaki pants or dark jeans, comfortable shoes like sneakers or loafers, and possibly a jacket if needed.
For women, casual attire typically includes long or short-sleeved blouses (including those with collars), slacks such as jeans, capris, or trousers, skirts that fall below the knee in length (knee-length skirts are also acceptable if paired with tights), comfortable shoes like flats, low heels or sandals, and possibly a blazer if needed. In addition, accessories such as small handbags and scarves can enhance the overall look. However, it is important to remember that overly flashy jewelry and clothing should be avoided on these occasions as they may give off an excessively dressy impression.
Social Interaction
The United States has a diverse culture, and each region and state will have slightly different customs. Generally speaking. However, social interaction in the United States is informal and friendly. When meeting someone for the first time, a handshake is appropriate.
There are some unspoken rules about how to interact with people and how to behave in different situations that are important to observe. This section will discuss in detail what these customs and etiquette rules are.
Conversation Topics
In the United States, conversation topics vary widely between people, ranging from the weather to current events or pop culture. However, there are a few topics that some people may consider off-limits to prevent uncomfortable conversations or disputes.
It is best to avoid controversial topics such as religion, politics, and personal wealth unless the group explicitly decides they want to discuss those things. Other topics, such as family relationships and gossip, may also be considered taboo in some social circles. Lastly, it is important to remember that introducing any criticism into the conversation can make people feel uncomfortable or unwelcome and should generally be avoided, particularly during introductions and first meetings.
It is recommended that conversations revolve around positive topics like shared interests and values. If everyone expresses their opinions with respect for others, then conversations can become an easy opportunity to interact with each other in a friendly manner.
Some subjects you could use to spark a conversation include:
- Hobbies or activities you enjoy doing together
- Any recent vacations someone has taken recently
- Interesting articles from the news or creative movements on social media platforms
It’s also important to remain engaged while conversing by maintaining eye contact with the speaker and being present at the moment as much as possible. That way, everyone feels heard, and significant contributions are appreciated by all conversation participants regardless of their background or life experiences. Doing this will help create an open atmosphere where people feel comfortable talking about themselves while respecting one another’s perspectives.
Personal Space
Personal space, or the physical distance between people during intimate, casual, or business conversations, is integral to social interaction in the United States. Generally speaking, people in the U.S. prefer a certain amount of distance – around 3 to 5 feet – while conversing with others.
The same general rule applies to physical contact; for instance, many Americans do not embrace meeting and greeting others, unlike those from other countries where hugging and cheek-kissing are common gestures. However, close friends and family members are more likely to exchange embraces than mere acquaintances.
The amount of personal space someone desires will vary based on cultural background and individual preferences; for example, some people may desire additional space while talking in groups, while others may be comfortable being close to their conversational partners. Regardless of circumstances, however, it’s always important to respect another person’s boundaries by asking permission before touching them (or their belongings).
In addition to exhibiting proper etiquette regarding physical proximity and contact with strangers, many Americans value their privacy; discussing confidential information or impolite topics near strangers can be considered inappropriate in most social settings.